I too have a hard time telling someone no, especially when they are "needy". I seem to feel more guilt than others.
When I get to the point where someone is really taking advantage of me (like Bridget *is* of you) I just kind of make myself unavailable. Kind of a passive "no".
I could be wrong (I don't know your schedule) but it seems that she knows you are coming home straight from work and will be "available" for her errands. If this is true, take a look at her prescriptions - see how long it will be before they run out. Then around that time, just don't be at home. Pick those days to have something else to do. Even sitting in a library reading/writing is better than that round trip you are taking to get _her_ medicine. Not to mention the stress she is putting you under...
Although it would suck to change your schedule, after awhile, she will not be able to count on *you* being the one at her beck and call. She may even start planning ahead because she will know that if she runs out, there might be a delay before she gets what she needs.
It may sound petty to others, but it works for me. I don't mind helping people. I'm usually a generous person, but you have to help me help you - I won't do it all on my end.
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Date: 2003-10-22 08:24 am (UTC)When I get to the point where someone is really taking advantage of me (like Bridget *is* of you) I just kind of make myself unavailable. Kind of a passive "no".
I could be wrong (I don't know your schedule) but it seems that she knows you are coming home straight from work and will be "available" for her errands. If this is true, take a look at her prescriptions - see how long it will be before they run out. Then around that time, just don't be at home. Pick those days to have something else to do. Even sitting in a library reading/writing is better than that round trip you are taking to get _her_ medicine. Not to mention the stress she is putting you under...
Although it would suck to change your schedule, after awhile, she will not be able to count on *you* being the one at her beck and call. She may even start planning ahead because she will know that if she runs out, there might be a delay before she gets what she needs.
It may sound petty to others, but it works for me. I don't mind helping people. I'm usually a generous person, but you have to help me help you - I won't do it all on my end.
- Marsha